Signs that grief & loss is affecting you (the honest list)

Ever notice how grief & loss is like a smoke alarm that won't stop. Here are the signs most people don't talk about: ## The Obvious Ones Everyone Mentions - Feeling overwhelmed or on edge - Changes in sleep patterns - Difficulty concentrating - Physical symptoms (headaches, stomach issues) ## The Ones Nobody Talks About - **Decision paralysis**: Spending 20 minutes choosing what to wear - **Emotional exhaustion**: Feeling drained after normal social interactions - **The Sunday scaries**: Dreading the week ahead every weekend - **Hypervigilance**: Constantly scanning for what might go wrong - **Irritability**: Snapping at people you care about over small things - **Avoidance behaviors**: Putting off important calls, emails, or tasks ## The Really Embarrassing Ones - Crying in grocery stores or parking lots - Googling symptoms at 2am convinced you're dying - Canceling plans at the last minute (again) - Feeling like a fraud in your own life - Having imaginary arguments in the shower - Checking your phone obsessively for distraction ## The Subtle Shifts - Food tastes different - Colors seem muted - Everything feels harder than it should - You're "fine" but nothing brings joy - Small tasks feel mountainous ## Why This Matters Recognizing these signs isn't about pathologizing normal human experience. It's about understanding when your system is under stress so you can respond with compassion instead of criticism. Your feelings make perfect sense. If you're nodding along to several of these, that's information, not a verdict.