What causes relationship anxiety?

Here's what they don't tell you: relationship anxiety isn't just "in your head" - it's like a browser with 47 tabs open. ## What's Actually Happening When you're dealing with relationship anxiety, your brain and body are responding to what they perceive as threats. Think of it like having a security system that's way too sensitive - it's doing its job, just doing it too well. ## The Physical Reality Your nervous system doesn't distinguish between real and perceived danger. So when relationship anxiety kicks in, you get: - Racing heart (your body prepping for action) - Tight chest (shallow breathing to get oxygen fast) - Racing thoughts (your brain scanning for solutions) - Muscle tension (ready to fight or flee) ## Why This Matters Understanding this isn't about "fixing" yourself - you're not broken. It's about recognizing that your responses make perfect sense given what your system thinks is happening. Your feelings make perfect sense. ## What Actually Helps Instead of fighting these responses, we can work *with* your nervous system. This might look like grounding techniques, breathing exercises, or simply acknowledging what's happening without judgment. Remember: You're not overreacting. You're responding exactly as a human would when their alarm system is activated.